It’s been a few weeks and I’ve had many changes in my life. While so much has changed, so much has stayed the same.

Tyrese is still every bit the fuckass that those of us with common sense always believed him to be.

Even more prominent men have been exposed for being sexual degenerates.

Donald Trump is still inexplicably the POTUS, thus continuing the hope of every less than mediocre white man that they too can slink into places they don’t actually belong.

But alas, dear readers, I have some good news.

1. R. Kelly, the HOIC (Head Ogre In Charge), got both of his homes broken into and all his prized possessions stolen.

In the words of Shirley Ceasar, hold my mule whilst I dance a jig of glee….

 

Let me back up. I don’t really spend too much time talking about Robert Kelly but I’ll go on the record with a few things:

1. I believe he’s guilty of everything he’s been accused of in terms of his sexually predatory behavior towards young Black girls.
2. I believe he’s guilty of everything he’s been recently accused of in terms of holding “adult” women hostage as “sex slaves” of some sort.
3. I think he’s trash.
4. I have not listened to one of his songs in IDK how long and have considered writing the major music streaming services to offer the option to opt-out of hearing him at all because he’s not even worth a “skip.”
5. If you can honestly listen to his music or go to his concerts with a clear conscience, something is wrong with you and, to be quite honest, you’re part of the problem in the Black community where our girls are victimized but we don’t hold these lecherous grown ass nasty men accountable.

 

With that said, let’s talk about number 5. I often ask myself if the people who continue to support him realize that they are in league with, but a bit worse than, the people who throw a BBQ for the cousin who comes home from prison after his fourth strike but couldn’t show up for their other cousin’s graduation.

The way I see it, writing songs takes inspiration. What sick and demented fantasies do you think inspired R. Kelly, the reigning king of sex songs who has an affinity towards young girls?

In that vein, what the fuck is wrong with you who still listen and patronize his shit that you can rock, bop, and screw to the songs of someone who has a sexual perversion that revolves around children?

In our community, we love to give predators a pass. It doesn’t matter if it’s R. Kelly or Uncle So-And-So, we find a way to either sweep it under the rug or worse, blame their victims for being “fast.” The innawebs are RIPE with men who swear fo’ gawd that little 14-year-old children not only visually entice them (on purpose, of course), but physically approach and throw themselves at grown men “all the time.”

As a former 14-year-old girl, I can say without a doubt that every one of those mutha’ fukkas are lying through their teeth. When I was 14 and males grown enough to have facial hair and a day job instead of sitting next to me in Algebra II catcalled or followed me, I was creeped the fuck out; not flattered.

When I was about 9 and waiting for my mom to finish getting something gift-wrapped at Sears, and a man sat next to me and asked me if I was ticklish, I wished the gift-wrapping agent would suddenly develop warp speed. I did not feel complimented and if I remember myself at 9, I probably had on my private school jumper and oxford shoes. I’m thankful to this day that I told that (likely) child molester that I was not, indeed, ticklish.

But let’s pretend these bitch ass child molestation sympathizers on the web aren’t lying. Let’s pretend that they do, indeed, live in a real-life version of some Lifetime movie where the teen babysitter tries to have sex with the 40-year-old husband. Where is the maturity and responsibility of adulthood? You aren’t 12 and she, the CHILD, isn’t the jar of candy your mom told you not to touch. Of course, I’m not a pedophile so maybe my brain just functions differently, but it seems to me that if I were approached by someone who is young enough for me to have babysat them at some point, I’d tell them to go home and study for their history test.

I sit and read and watch people in our community make excuses for all manner criminality and play mental gymnastics as to why some dude who would sooner knife you for the $10 in your purse, (turns out, they may not only knife you, but want to rape your child too), didn’t deserve to get molly whopped by the police but then twist their fingers to type a badly-spelled diatribe about why a 13-year-old deserves to at least share the blame for being violated by someone who probably has kids her age.

At this point, I think it’s a hopeless proposition to expect our community to ever care about Black girls and women. As far as R. Kelly is concerned, I await the day a white girl or white woman comes out against him so that maybe he’ll see a few days in the clink….or his maker (because white men are good about setting a standard of care for their women and making people pay who dishonor them).